PATHWAYS TO SELF

8.18.2026

The Path to Purpose Through the Nine Steps of Self Realization

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About Pathways to Self

What do you do when you've achieved everything you were told would make you happy, but it doesn't?

Professionally, I thought I had it all: a six-figure income, awards, and accolades. But inside, I felt empty, lost, and anxious. It wasn't until a friend and psychotherapist asked if I'd be willing to try something unusual—a past life regression—that everything began to change in the best possible way.

What followed was a decade-long journey from glittering galas to the jungles of Costa Rica and the sacred mountains of Peru, deep into the subconscious mind and back. Through past life regression, hypnotherapy, and quiet revelations, I discovered what no amount of achievement could give me: myself.

Pathways to Self is both a deeply honest memoir and a practical guide. Across nine steps—from Self-Awareness to Self-Realization—I share the milestones, the breakdowns, and the breakthroughs that reshaped my understanding of success, purpose, and love. Each chapter closes with reflection questions and guided practices so you can walk your own path home to yourself.

This book isn't about becoming someone new. It's about finally remembering who you've always been.

Self Awareness

〰️ Self Trust

〰️ Self Discipline

〰️ Self-ish

〰️ Self Compassion

〰️ Self Expression

〰️ Self Compassion

〰️ Self Belief

〰️ Self Realization 〰️

Self Awareness 〰️ Self Trust 〰️ Self Discipline 〰️ Self-ish 〰️ Self Compassion 〰️ Self Expression 〰️ Self Compassion 〰️ Self Belief 〰️ Self Realization 〰️

Sunlight reflecting on the surface of water, creating a pattern of light and dark lines.
A person with curly hair wearing a sheer floral shawl or wrap, standing on a beach during sunset, with their arms outstretched.
A woman with curly hair sits among driftwood on a beach at sunset, with the ocean and sun in the background.

There is a theory in past life regression work that a soul’s first incarnation into the physical world is that of a dog. The theory has always made sense to me, because dogs are the closest we come to the experience of unconditional love. It is why, when I lost Lucy, my sixteen-and-a-half-year-old puggle, while reviewing the final manuscript of this book, I knew I had to write this introduction with her in mind. The lessons I have learned over the last twenty years, and the tools I share in these pages, feel more important to me now than ever as I grieve.

The most unexpected part of losing my four-legged bestie has been the shift in identity I experienced. No matter how long I anticipated her passing (anticipatory grief is a real thing), the emptiness that followed, and the sudden reshaping of my role in the world, has been jarring. I no longer go for walks with her first thing in the morning. I no longer rush home every few hours. I no longer plan trips with her in mind.

One morning, in my grief, I cried to my brother Ron, “What am I . . . only a cat mom now?!” I was referring to my incredible jungle cat, Luno, who adopted us in our second year of living in Costa Rica, another unexpected turn in my life path that Lucy influenced. It was because of Lucy that we got “stuck” there during the pandemic in the first place.

Introduction

  • "I couldn't have predicted this life. Every time I thought I knew where it was going, the universe asked me to hold her proverbial beer and redirected me. And every single detour, every sliding door, every fork in the road led me exactly here. I wouldn't change a single wrong turn."

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  • "We come into this world as pure extensions of love, expressed and unapologetic. And then the ego develops. And with it, separation. We begin to feel different. Unlovable. Not enough. We form those conclusions in moments so small we don't even remember them. A tired father needing a minute. A comment on a beach. A boy laughing on a playground. None of them catastrophic. All of them formative."

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  • "I had achieved everything I was told would make me happy. The income. The recognition. The life that looked right from the outside. And I stood in the middle of it, completely lost. Nobody tells you that arriving at the destination you worked so hard for and still feeling empty is one of the loneliest feelings in the world."

    Pathways to Self